Resources

Free support services and tools that Martin often recommends. Whether you’re a client or not, you’re welcome to use them.

Martin isn’t a crisis service. If you need urgent help between sessions, please contact one of the services below.

• Emergency000

  Police, ambulance or fire, if you or someone else is in danger now. 24/7

• Lifeline13 11 14

  Crisis support and suicide prevention. Text 0477 13 11 14. 24/7

• Suicide Call Back Service1300 659 467

  For anyone feeling suicidal, or worried about someone who is. 24/7

• MensLine Australia1300 78 99 78

  Free counselling for men, by phone, video or web chat. 24/7

• Beyond Blue1300 22 4636

  Anxiety, depression and general mental health. Web chat too. 24/7

• Medicare Mental Health1800 595 212

  The Australian Government’s free mental health service (formerly Head to Health). Its website and phone line help you find the right support. Not a crisis line. 8:30am to 5pm, weekdays

• 13YARN13 92 76

  Crisis support for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. 24/7

• QLife1800 184 527

  Free LGBTIQ+ peer support and referral, by phone or web chat. 3pm to 9pm every day

• Thorne Harbour Health(03) 9865 6700

  LGBTIQ+ health in Victoria, including counselling, sexual health and HIV services. Business hours

• Victorian Pride Centre resource directory

  A searchable directory of LGBTIQA+ services and groups across Victoria for all ages, including counselling, health, legal help, social groups and sport. You can filter by age, location and community. Online

• Rainbow Network directory

  A searchable directory of LGBTIQA+ groups and services across Victoria, from social groups to health, housing and legal help. Run by La Trobe University, with a focus on young people. Online

• Forcibly Displaced People Network (FDPN)[email protected]

  Support and advocacy for LGBTIQ+ refugees and people seeking asylum. Email

• Victorian PEP Phoneline1800 889 887

  Advice after a possible HIV exposure. PEP must start within 72 hours, the sooner the better. 9am to 5pm, Monday to Friday

• 1800RESPECT1800 737 732

  Support for anyone affected by sexual assault, domestic or family violence. 24/7

• Family Relationship Advice Line1800 050 321

  Advice on family relationships and separation, including parenting arrangements, with referrals to local services. 8am to 8pm weekdays, 10am to 4pm Saturday

• National Alcohol and Other Drug Hotline1800 250 015

  Free, confidential advice. Connects you to your state service. 24/7

• Family Drug Support1300 368 186

  For families of people using alcohol or other drugs. 24/7

• Gambling Help1800 858 858

  Free counselling by phone or online chat. 24/7

• Open Arms1800 011 046

  For current and former Australian Defence Force members and their families. 24/7

• The Feelings Wheel

  A wheel of emotion words that helps you name what you’re feeling, moving from a broad feeling like “sad” to something more precise like “lonely” or “disappointed”. Useful in sessions, in relationships and on your own.

• Gottman Card Decks

  A free app from the Gottman Institute with more than 1,000 question and conversation cards to help couples talk, reconnect and get to know each other better. Free app, iPhone and Android

• Blueheart

  An app designed by sex and relationship therapists, with short guided sessions for couples, including sensate focus, a mindful touch exercise often used in sex therapy. App, free trial then paid

Books Martin often recommends to clients.

• Come As You Are

  Emily Nagoski
  The science of women’s sexuality and desire, and why there’s no one “normal”.

• Come Together

  Emily Nagoski
  How couples can create sexual connection that lasts in long-term relationships.

• The Penis Book

  Aaron Spitz
  A urologist’s plain-language guide to the penis, from size and function to common problems.

• When Sex Hurts

  Andrew Goldstein, Caroline Pukall and Irwin Goldstein
  A guide for women to the causes of painful sex and how it can be treated.

• Testosterone: An Unauthorized Biography

  Rebecca M. Jordan-Young and Katrina Karkazis
  What testosterone does, and doesn’t do, behind the popular myths.

• Perv: The Sexual Deviant in All of Us

  Jesse Bering
  A curious, non-judgemental look at sexual desire and where we draw the line on “normal”.

• Sex: Lessons from History

  Fern Riddell
  How ideas about sex have changed over time, and what that means for us now.

• His Porn, Her Pain

  Marty Klein
  A frank look at the worry and conflict porn can cause in relationships, and how couples can talk about it honestly.

• Sexploitation

  Cindy Pierce
  For parents: helping children develop healthy sexuality in a world shaped by porn.